Drop the F Bomb

Offensive… Explosive… Impactful… Powerful… Destructive. 

All of these words describe the real mother of all four letter words… FEAR.
It is insidious and pervasive seeping into our hearts and minds choking our confidence and strangling our hopes and dreams. We all have fear. It is part of our survival system designed to protect us, but while a healthy dose of caution does a body good, much of the time fear runs rampant and limits us from our greatest achievements and experiences. But if we can steel our courage and cultivate our most rock solid confidence we can learn to do battle and live and love victoriously.

Experts tell us that our biggest motivator to achieve our goals or try something new is emotion. Emotion is the fuel of our habits and behavior and all emotion can be categorized under either fear or love.

Fear is the opposite of love. Typically we believe the opposite of love is hate but hate is rooted in fear. Fear is anxious, jealous, closed, rejecting, limited, narrow and plays small.
Love is open, expansive, accepting, adventurous, bold and creative.

When you look at the emotion that fuels your behavior are you acting from a perspective of fear or love?

Awareness is a great place to start but do not stop there.  Use the steps outlined below to drop the F Bomb from your life and explode with the success and happiness you seek.

Step One Clarify

What do you most want and what stands in the way? Dig deep, get to the roots. We aren’t you moving forward? What might happen if you did? 

Step Two Confront

Most fear is irrational and dishonest, fight back. Is it true? What else is true and serves you better? Are you really in danger or just avoiding discomfort or embarrassment?

Step Three Courage

Cultivate courage by remembering who you really are and what you are made of. Past war stories arm todays battle. Recognize all that you have overcome, survived and achieved thus far, this is the hard evidence that you have everything you need already within you. Do not wait for fear to pass...it won’t, cultivate the courage to move forward despite fear, that is the definition of bravery.

Step Four Confidence

Genuine confidence based on self acceptance is the rock solid foundation we need to live with the freedom and authenticity to pursue what we most want. It allows us to share who we are and express and experience our lives fully. When we are truly confident we know we are capable to handle whatever comes our way. Genuine confidence is not simply false bravado or arrogance that loudly boasts that we can be and do it all, who can after all? Rather, it is the quiet knowledge that when we step forward boldly we can give it our all knowing that we will be ok whatever comes our way.

Know yourself. Trust yourself.  Be true to yourself. Chose love. Start with yourself.

Julia Skeesick CEO of LifeScape Strategies offers F- Bomb workshops to help you and your group explore and explode this dangerous topic info www.lifescapestrategies.com Find out more about private or group coaching workshops and retreats.